I love-love-love these insights about asking for help, Abby, especially the fascinating research on rejection psychology. I'll also note that you're someone I turn to when I need help precisely because you create such a safe space to be vulnerable (though I promise I won't ask you to share your tailor's details since that professional relationship is clearly classified above top secret). And congrats on your paperback launch!
All of this means a great deal to me, Yael. Thank you for being so supportive and modeling vulnerability - there’s so much strength in that. And haha re: my tailor, who has clearly sworn me to secrecy!
This is such a great topic and one near and dear to my heart (a lot of my research is about the promises and perils of organizations with strong cultures of helping). We should also give a shoutout to Vanessa Bohns's (nee Lake) research on one more reason to ask for help: We severely underestimate how willing others are to help us:
Flynn, F. J., & Lake, V. K. B. 2008. If you need help, just ask: Underestimating compliance with direct requests for help. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 95(1): 128–143.
Nothing fills me with a sense of purpose more than helping a friend in a bind. I admit that I do it as much for myself as for them!
Right? It feels SO good to be helpful. Such a win/win! Your friends no doubt appreciate you so much.
Always the best thing in my inbox!
Thank you! That's high praise since I know your inbox is overflowing!
I love-love-love these insights about asking for help, Abby, especially the fascinating research on rejection psychology. I'll also note that you're someone I turn to when I need help precisely because you create such a safe space to be vulnerable (though I promise I won't ask you to share your tailor's details since that professional relationship is clearly classified above top secret). And congrats on your paperback launch!
All of this means a great deal to me, Yael. Thank you for being so supportive and modeling vulnerability - there’s so much strength in that. And haha re: my tailor, who has clearly sworn me to secrecy!
It was a pleasure to feature you, Abby!
This is such a great topic and one near and dear to my heart (a lot of my research is about the promises and perils of organizations with strong cultures of helping). We should also give a shoutout to Vanessa Bohns's (nee Lake) research on one more reason to ask for help: We severely underestimate how willing others are to help us:
http://doi.apa.org/getdoi.cfm?doi=10.1037/0022-3514.95.1.128
Flynn, F. J., & Lake, V. K. B. 2008. If you need help, just ask: Underestimating compliance with direct requests for help. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 95(1): 128–143.
Thanks for sharing this research, Colin! There are so many compelling research-backed reasons to ask!
Love all the science in here.
Thanks, Todd! I can’t resist a good research study.